Today is my first “guest post” by Nikki Baccaro, my cousin. When I first started this blog, my purpose was to center it around natural beauty. But since then, I’ve realized it’s SO much more than that. It’s not just about detoxing your beauty products, but about detoxing your life. Getting rid of things or thoughts that serve you no purpose and welcoming and searching for things that make you a better, happier, and healthier person. Whether its detoxing from a toxic beauty routine or detoxing from a bad job or relationship, we all need to take the time to detox in our lives. Nikki has been on her own personal growth journey and it’s been so amazing to go through our own personal growth journeys together. She is smart, dedicated, caring, ambitious and such a hard worker. She’s one of those people you can have real conversations with about the “big” questions in life and she’s always striving for better.
Today, Nikki wrote a post all about detoxing from negative things in her own life, specifically her job. I’m so grateful to her for writing this. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! ❤️
That Dreaded Job Search: Advice from a New Hire
By Nicole Baccaro
I left my boss’ office with a spinning head, rapid heartbeat and defeat. He had just told me I would not be getting the promotion I asked for due to funding and my experience level. To say panic ensued would be an understatement. Now what am I going to do? I am stuck in this position; I have already hit my ceiling one year into my role. Experience level? I have my MBA and four years of experience! If there was a basement level of the building, that’s where you could have found my self-worth. Frantically, my head went into an existential crisis. What will be my next job? What am I supposed to do with my life? What is my passion? What is my purpose? Applying for new jobs is a full time job in itself!
I quickly reached out to a friend & mentor and told him my debacle. The piece of advice I received back was life changing. “You will rarely, if ever, get a job by applying solely on the company’s website. The only way to get a new position is to network yourself there.” He is an HR professional so I took this seriously and decided to mix it in to my next job hunt.
Fast forward 3 months, I secured a new position at a Fortune 500 company! Making the decision to leave a job can be daunting, but if it means bettering yourself (and your life) then the adversity is worth it. This blog represents a new beginning, a positive change, leaving the negative behind and continuously improving, so I wanted to share some advice that helped me on my search.
Tip 1. Get over yourself. I don’t mean that in a rude way, what I mean is the job search process is a game. It’s like a really bad dating game where guards are up, people are on their best behavior, and everything is very unnatural. Although you practiced your answers and prepped all week, you will stumble over words in an interview or start sweating from your forehead, but that’s ok! Own it. Once you realize owning the awkwardness is half the battle, you’re already miles ahead of those who let that stop them.
Tip 2. Network your butt off. Networking is a scary word to many people, I get it. I feel like we should officially change the word “networking” to “friendly chatting” and the stress would immediately vanish. But truly, that’s essentially what it is! You network all the time without even realizing it, talking to strangers in the grocery line, on your commute, meeting the guy in the cube seven rows down from you, or your cousin’s best-friends girlfriend at a party. Meet as many people as you can or look for local networking events in your area; no matter if you are looking for a job or not, you truly never know where a valuable connection may be hidden.
Tip 3. Use Linkedin & slide into those DMs. Follow organizations that interest you, join alumni networks to connect with alma matter colleagues, and take the business cards at the bottom of your drawers and start adding those people to your network.
If you see a job that interests you at an organization, and know some kid you went to high school with but haven’t spoken to in eight years works there, message him. Honestly, I did that. Did I feel a little awkward? Of course, but I owned it, was friendly, acknowledged the fact it’s been a while, told him my high-level version story and asked if he would be my referral. He was overjoyed to help me and on top of that, sent me even more opportunities to apply for with his employee website link. It truly is not what you know, but who you know. (Not entirely true, but you get it). Nine times out of ten people are more than willing to help someone out. In many situations, friends and family can get a referral bonus if you land the job as well, so it’s a win-win all around!
My new job was initiated by a Linkedin conversation. I got the interview by messaging an HR professional at the company I wanted to work for. I let my ego go, formulated a message to send to her, professionally explaining my background, what I was looking for and threw in some knowledge about the company. She sent my resume to the hiring manager and the rest is history. DO NOT be afraid to use this tool to your advantage. If someone doesn’t answer, that’s ok, just keep knocking on doors until someone opens.
Tip 4. Don’t get discouraged. You will apply to 100 jobs, hear back from five and get an interview with one. Do not get defeated in all of the radio silence and rejection emails. Please trust the timing and know the right opportunity will present itself at the right time.
Tip 5. Be proud. You have acknowledged the fact you are in a crappy job or at a place in your career where you are ready to take a leap of faith. Be proud that you have noticed this and are going to take action. It is too easy to get comfortable in a role and not want to leave or better yourself because it’s challenging. Yes, it is going to be challenging, but change is never easy. Creating your own ‘Clean Slate’ starts with the right mindset!